Interests vary widely. I am an open minded gay white male who is interested sexually and emotionally in many avenues. Sexually I am 90% a bottom man and am very oral. I have been in three major relationships in my life and until the next one comes along I am open to searching and discussing all possibilities including no strings fun.
Someone able to take care of himself but wanting more than just being with himself. Someone who longs to be with someone special. Someone with a gusto for life and whatever it has to offer. Finding that special someone takes time, energy, and effort. Nothing of value comes without some level of work. It all starts with a meeting. If finding a lover was as easy as drawing a paper out of a bowl we would all be with someone special. There are those who meet someone one new every day or night but thats just sexual fulfillment and not true searching for Mr Right. I don't judge anyone who does that and have done similar myself but it is not a means to an end. We are sexual beings and have a drive for such intimacy even if for a flirting moment. Meeting Mr Right entails a clicking if you will...a sort of understanding between two people that is a mutual, often unspoken, agreement that things are going down the right path that each believes in or is looking to take. It is a similarity in interests, drives, desires and a true meshing of the same. Even those things being said there is a spiritual aspect to it that goes beyond an ability to truly explain. Finding that special someone who has the personality, spiritual love and sexual compatibility is the key. That search is what eludes so many. I am not against finding friends or even friends with benefits along the way but my true goal is to find that someone who is everything to me an I am everything to him. Love is meant to be shared between two people not one sided. It must be mutual to be real.
That being said, I feel I should state that I realize that to meet or find Mr Right it has to start with one of the three Personality, spiritual understanding or sexual compatibility. Meeting me for any one of the following is fine, for we never know where we will find all three and it takes time to discover all three of them.. I do not consider myself a player and am not looking for those JUST seeking a one time thing or checking me off as a NOTCH on the belt.
Sexually.... I am generally 90% a bottom man. I am mutually oral but by and large seek to give oral more than get it. Giving oral is in fact my favorite sexual act. That being said, I am looking for someone who is my compliment sexually. Thus I seek someone that is Primarily a TOP and likes to have oral performed on him. I hate to put this so bluntly, as it makes me seem shallow when I am not. Age and looks are not my primary considerations in my search for Mr Right. Ideally Plus or minus 6 years of me is what I seek but do not cement that into a pass or fail attitude.
Obviously we all have to work in some form or another to maintain our livelihood. Working is fine but should not consume you and ALL of your time. There should be something left for your partner, some sort of balance. If your working 7 days a week for 8 to 10 hours a day that does not leave much time for a relationship to develop and or blossom. I work 3 12 hour days a week and occasionally do pick up overtime but would be able to find a balance for a lover.
I like to travel when time and money permit but otherwise am more of a homebody with focus on personal time for me and or my lover. Im not against going out with a partner for movie, dinner or small get together but generally am not one for attending big parties or social events. That is not to say I would not go, just saying I'm no BIG social butterfly.
If you sound like you may fill some part of what I seek and seek to work on the rest. Please respond.
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My Ideal Person:
As noted above, the person I seek will desire to have me for all that I am and all that I can become and continue to be for him forever and always.
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