My Ideal Person:
The top I seek is level-headed and certain he most wants a life-mate like me to complete him as a person – thus, he’s likely experienced with not just curious about having a fem-bottom as a partner. My attraction to him will be less predicated by his outer characteristics (height, weight, race, income, status), than his inner qualities (confidence, affection, attentiveness, kindness, understanding).

I'm drawn to tops who are of a similar age (50-80 is my preferred age-group), self-confident without being cocky; who are thoughtful and open-minded; experienced but still inquisitive about life; and who have a buoyant personality without being false, boisterous or incapable of enjoying quiet moments. I appreciate an individual who is practical and plans ahead, but who can also handle situations ad hoc if needed. I am comforted by a partner who prides himself as a provider and who will safeguard my welfare, without being controlling, brusque, obnoxious, or showy. I relish someone who can express himself in word and deed – his actions & intent being more essential in these regards than his skills & abilities.

If we bond as two people after we meet, my ideal partner seeks a long term committed relationship as a live-together couple vs. casual dating or a purely sexual relationship. This noted however, as a sexual person I am only a bottom and desire a top who is experienced in same sex relationships and self-confident as a top. I/he both want most to be intimate on a subjective level with one partner. It’s not that I am uncomfortable with objective sex – in fact I enjoy a dexterous sex life – but I want now in life a fuller, more meaningful connection to one top as his companion, friend, lover, and mate, and together to enjoy erotic sex-play that’s mutually stimulating.