"I'm back on my feet again, out on the street again,
Looking for love on the way to the sky"
Borrowed those words from my favorite songwriter (Neil Diamond), as they seem to sum up quite well where I am at this point in my life and what I want - that being love, connection, and the security of a stable relationship. I've always wanted that actually, but "clouds got in the way" to borrow another lyric.
About me: I'm a textbook introvert, a term that is often misunderstood. It doesn't mean I'm shy (though I can be in certain situations) or unreachable, not at all. In fact I'd say I have a much greater awareness of myself and the world around me than most people.
What it does mean is that a lot of social activity can drain and overwhelm me rather quickly, at which point I need to be alone (or spend quiet time with you) to recharge. I generally dislike loud, boisterous environments (bars, parties) where there are lots of people, and most often prefer quieter activities (shopping, museums). While I like small groups or one-on-one interaction better than large groups, I am fine with being amidst crowds of people - if I don't have to interact with them, they don't drain me (I love NYC, strolling shopping malls and casinos, etc).
Generally speaking, introverts have a rich inner world and draw their energy from being alone with their thoughts (as opposed to extroverts, who draw energy from others and dislike too much solitude). Introverts think before speaking and don't like being put on the spot. We dislike excessive chitchat, and prefer deeper discussions on things that really matter. We're deep thinkers, and usually rather intelligent.
We're writers and observers(very true with me) more than talkers and express ourselves best on paper. We love email and loathe cell phones. We're introspective and thoughtful, and as such make great listeners and give great advice - as long as what you're saying has some depth and isn't empty drivel. And by depth I don't mean that it's intellectual (I don't consider myself such), but meaningful - about life and feelings and YOUR inner experience.
OK, if you're still with me then you know a pretty good chunk of what makes me tick. Read below to see who I think I'd be compatible with.
My Ideal Person:
I'm generally drawn to quieter types. After all, if we're going to spend a lot of time together and you often want to go out and be social while I want to stay home and read or watch a movie with you, it's not going to work very well. So you need to be near me on the social activity tolerance scale.
But I don't seek a recluse - I will want you to be comfortable going out and doing things with me on occasion: shows, theater, movies, dinner, concerts, visiting friends, playing cards. But you'll notice these are not excessively social pursuits, but either spectator activities or small-group interactions.
I'd like you to have some awareness of your "issues" (we all have them) and how things from your past affect you today. I spent 12 years in analysis in an attempt to understand and appreciate myself better, and I'd like to be able to have discussions with you when problems arise about what from the past might be causing them.
I like someone with a sense of humor (I have an active one and can be quite witty) who doesn't take themselves too seriously.
I generally need to feel some sort of chemistry or spark from you, as I assume you would from me. Physically, I've found in the past that younger, waifish, cute guys, maybe with a slight touch of femininity, usually make my heart beat fastest, though it's also happened with strong masculine types as well. So who knows? But for me, it's pretty much something I can detect on first meeting. It's a sixth sense more than being shallow, and I trust it. I've only been with a guy older than me once, and that was 25 years ago. I don't think it would work for me now.
Southern guys are a plus.
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